Tuesday, March 30, 2010

2 For £3 Beers

Finder: Mrs C.R. Lester
Found: Outside Flat, Carlton Road North, Weymouth, Dorset, UK.

Tomatoe Sauce

Finder: Mrs C. R. Lester
Found: Morrisons, Dorchester Road, Weymouth, Dorset, UK.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

One in three women who use online personals admit they hooked up for sex on the first date.

Today I found some pretty disturbing new statistics about online dating and hookups. It's getting wilder, looser and wierder.

- One out of three women who meet men online have sex on the first encounter. (40 million people use online personals in the US alone. That means more than 7 million women in the US alone admit to hooking up for one night stand sex with a stranger they met on Craigslist or whatever. Eeeeew.
- And 1 out of 5 of the women who hooked up did not use protection. That means 1 million women every year are having unprotected hook up sex with total strangers they meet online. And those are the ones who admit it. Double eeeeev.
- One out of ten users on online dating sites are scammers. (Oh really?)
- One out of ten sex offenders reportedly use online dating to meet people. (I personally have had the misfortune to meet a few of these sex addicts and players who habitually use personals to hook up. The most common ploy is saying they want a "serious relationship.")
- Online, men lie most about their age, height, and income.
(No kidding. Especially their interest in an actual, sincere relationship instead of their chance to be one of those lucky 7 million guys who got laid on a first date that probably cost no more than a latte at Starbucks.)
- Online dating has caused a decline in online porn. (Well, if you can get laid for the cost of a latte, why would you shell out money for phone sex?)

Is it just me, or has morality, commitment and just plain getting to know each other first (for like, at least, you know, a week or two. How about for two lattes?) gone completely out the window?

Are people just too broke in "today's economy" to go on a date and get to know each other's last names before they jump into the back seat of the car and boink?

By the way, statistics of heterosexuals with HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases are soaring. Probably in no small part due to the success of "NSA" ads enabling easy hook ups.

Do you really think someone who doesn't even know you yet and will never see you again gives a hoot if they pass on their little "infection"?

70 million people are living with STDs in the U.S. alone, as well as an estimated 400 million people worldwide. But don't worry. There's an online dating service for that too including Positive Singles, STD Match, Herpes Online, AfterH.com, STDfriends.com, HMates, STDSinglesmeet, FreeSTDsinglesmatch, and Pozmeeting.com.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

SO glad I didn't click that: "In a relationship" button.

According to the London Daily Mail (referenced in a recent New York Post story), "A new poll finds that 48 percent of people under 21 and 18 percent of people ages 22-30 dumped a loved one via a social networking site like Facebook."

That's half of all relationships, folks. And you thought getting dumped on the phone or in a text message was bad form. Getting dumped on Facebook is like a global public hanging.

This has lead to a recent surge of Miss Manners types to say that new rules of social etiquitte must be instituted to ensure this atrocious act of rudeness happens less often.

Like, do unto others as you would like them to do to you. Basic kindness. Respect. Consideration.

All seemingly in short supply these days, and we switch glibly from "Single" to "Random Play" to "In a relationship" to "Engaged" to "Married" to "It's complicated."

No kidding.

I've even seen married couples get into a row about it when "she" wants to say they're married and he's got cold feet about announcing it on Facebook. Huh? You're married folks.

And it's typical that the Woman is all to eager to click "in a relationship" while the man still has cold feet. Leading to ... complications.

Like, when the Other Woman finds out! Which is what happened to my friend Troy, leading to his getting dumped by all the women he was seeing once they all found out about each other on his Facebook page.

Or what about those other potentially embarrassing widgets and features? Like getting an Erotic Gifts from that lover you're seeing on the side? Or a big, smoochy kiss or purple flashing heart that can linger on your page long after the notorious womanizer player has moved on to his next target...letting everyone on your friend list know you were one of his victims.

And what about those who have been dumped, publicly, on Facebook. Nothing like waking up to see your boyfriend's "in a relationship" suddenly disappears and changes to: "random play"?

Me, I'm keeping it simple. And I'm not clicking that button until he and I both mutually agree we're "In a relationship" we are confident enough about to announce to my 780 "friends". If that ever happens I'll dance from the rooftops, and crow about it on Facebook. Heck yeah.

In the meantime, I'll just stick to: "networking" and "friends."