A note to a friend...
Dig back into your childhood for the roots of that (probably a narcissicic parent who
either ignored/neglected you or never was satisfied with your
accomplishments) ... and sever those roots.
Cut the chords that are pulling you and manipulating your life to this day.
Don't let that wounded little boy make the decisions for your adult life
By the way, if we get back into the MOMENT of now, and are present, I
realize that you/I have a good 20 years ahead of us...
...in which either of us could write a best seller, have a fantastic
relationship, have a great family, start a thriving business, join a hot
startup or flip another fixer upper.
I'm trying to focus on that possibility, and avoid looking back, because
the past is so painful sometimes, so filled with regrets....and because
we can't change the past, but we can change the future.
So focus there.
What do you want those next 20 years to be? (And don't blame the
potential on the government or whatever--times are always in flux and
often challenging. It's what we make of them that matters.